Why We’re Feeling Lonely

Why We’re Feeling Lonely (and What We Can Do About It) by Shelby Abbott is a timely and practical guide that explores young adults’ loneliness and shows how grounding relationships in God’s design can bring healing. Speaking directly to Gen Z, the book offers a distinctly Christian perspective and solution.

Gospel-Centered Friendships

I was particularly moved by the discussion of developing an authentic sense of self in a world of filtered digital identities. As someone who spends a lot of time online, it felt like a wake-up call for me at the start of a new year.

I also appreciated how the book addresses gospel-centered friendships as an antidote to pornography use and a casual attitude toward sex. I honestly did not expect this topic to be included, but it is handled with both courage and care.

Time, Effort, and Intentionality

One of the most practical aspects of the book is its guidance on cultivating real-life friendships intentionally. Abbott encourages readers to invest time and effort into authentic relationships and to begin viewing members of the opposite sex through the lens of friendship rather than sexualization. These concrete steps make the principles of the book actionable and immediately relevant to everyday life.

The book also challenges readers to play the long game in relationships—investing in small groups, going deeper with those they spend time with, and loving without expectation. This perspective reminds us that true community is built over time through patience, intentionality, and sacrificial care, rather than seeking immediate gratification or recognition.

Our Faithful Friend

While ideal for young adults, this book is also valuable for adults who, despite leading full lives, still encounter moments of loneliness. It ultimately points us to the perfect, faithful Friend—one who will never leave or forsake us.

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